有那么一些“鸡汤”，在它们新鲜出锅时，我们还觉得有道理，对补心灵大有裨益。
但时间久了，我们不但觉得不对，还有点反感。
Askreddit上有一波网友“反鸡汤发声”，一起来看看，你们是否同意他们的观点呢？
1
从小到大，我们被不断灌输这样的成功学理念：
—Never give up 永不言弃。
—Winners never quit. / Quitters never win. 胜者永不言弃；弃者永不得胜。
反鸡汤发声——
Sometimes giving up and moving on is the right thing to do.
有时候放弃然后继续前行，才是正确的选择。
Winners quit all the time, when it becomes clear the likely payoff isn worth the investment in time and resources. There are probably things in your life at any given time that youd be better off quitting and putting those resources into things with a better chance of a successful outcome.
但是当付出比收获更多的时候，胜者也会选择放弃。有时候你得选择放弃，把精力和时间，放在更有可能成功的事情上。
（变通，才是人生的真理）
2
失败是什么？鸡汤说：
Losing is not an option.
失败不是一种选择。
反鸡汤发声——
It absolutely is an option, and a great impetus to grow and do better.
其实失败是一种选择，它可以给你成长和完善自我的动力。
When doubt seeps in you got two roads, and you can take either road. You can go to the left or you can go to the right and believe me, theyll tell you failure is not an option.
当你心中的疑虑分出了两条路，你可以任选一条。你可以选择左边这条，亦可以选择右边这条，但是相信我，总有人会告诉你失败不是一种选择。
That is ridiculous. Failure is always an option.
这太荒谬了。失败一直都是一种选择。
Failure is the most readily available option at all times, but its a choice. You can choose to fail or you can choose to succeed.
失败永远都是一种选择。你可以选择成功，也可选择失败。
And if we can plant seeds and let him know, ‘Move your feet, keep your hands up, stay off the bottom. That is the road to victory, or self-doubt and negative talk, and that is the road to failure.
如果我们可以播种种子，请对他说，“舞动你的脚，举起你的手，一步一步晚上爬，渐渐远离最底层。”这条路可能通向成功，可能通向自我怀疑，可能通向负面言论，也有可能通向失败。
But failure is always there, and its okay to recognize that.
无论如何，失败总是在那，承认它的存在并无大碍。
If I can leave you with anything today, in my long journey through this is: One, its okay. Two, its normal. And as athletes and especially as men, as male athletes we hate to admit weakness to ourselves, and when you e dealing with something and you got some kind of a hiccup, yeah, first thing is acknowledge it.
如果我今天的长篇大论能给你一些启迪，那这些启迪是：一，失败没关系。二，失败很正常。作为一个运动员尤其是一个男性运动员，我们不愿意承认自己的弱点, 当你在处理某些事情的时候遇到一些小的阻碍，首先要做的是承认这些阻碍的存在。
（以上言论来自UFC选手Chael Sonnen）
3
关于工作，鸡汤告诉我们：
Do what you love as a job and youll never work a day in your life.
如果你把自己的喜欢做的事当成一份工作，那你人生的每一天都不像在工作。
反鸡汤发声——
My experience has been "Do what you love as a job and it will suck all the love out of it.
我的经验是“如果你把自己喜欢做的事当成一份工作，那么你对它的喜爱将会消失殆尽。”
My personal advice is, "Do something you mildly enjoy or at least don despise that pays well."
我的建议是，“做你有点喜欢的或者至少不讨厌的工作，并且这份工作的薪资要很不错。”
May be less inspiring, but more practical in the end.
这个建议可能不太鼓舞人心，但却十分切实有效。
Save the thing you love for a hobby. Happiness comes a lot easier when you aren living paycheck to paycheck.
把你喜欢做的事当成是兴趣爱好就好。当你不再指望薪水过活的时候，幸福就会来的更容易一些。
More like, "Do what you love and youll end up hating what you love.”
现实是，“做你喜欢的事，最后你喜欢的也将成为你所憎恨的。”
The trick is to do the job you can see yourself doing for 40 years without going insane.
你应该找一份你觉得自己干了40年之后
还没疯的工作。
4
在个性如此重要的今天，你是不是也听过这样的鸡汤：
—Just be yourself.做你自己。
—Never change for anybody.不要为了任何人改变自己。
反鸡汤发声——
Some people are naturally jerks, douches, dicks, bitches, egomaniacs, narcissists, apathetic, and/or liars. Those people need to not be themselves but instead get help on how to be a decent person.
然而有的人是天生的蠢货，混蛋，人渣，婊子，自大狂，自恋狂，冷血动物或者骗子。这些人不应该做自己，他们应该去寻找帮助，学习如何成为一个正直的人。
也有人说——
Obviously, its not a good idea to change everything about yourself to get someone to like you.
显然为了获得某人欢心而改变自我非常不明智。
The problem with that advice is that change is a natural part of life, and its inevitable when you meet someone you e going to be with long term. Ive changed a ton since I met my husband, and he has too. But weve changed for the better. Its a good thing.
这个建议的不足之处在于，改变是生活的一部分，刚你遇上一个你想和他/她长相厮守的人，改变更是不可避免的。自从我遇见了我的丈夫，我改变了很多。他也改变了很多。但是我们是朝着更好的一面改变的。这何尝不是件好事。
5
尊老爱幼，当然，这是我们的传统美德的一部分，于是我们被教导：
Always respect your elders.
永远要尊敬长者。
反鸡汤发声——
Just because you e old doesn mean you e wise, or even reasonable for that matter.
年长的人并不一定睿智，甚至可能连理智都谈不上。
Bullshit. I get that they e older than me (I am 35) however, a very good chunk of people older than me that I deal with daily are ignorant pricks who don deserve my respect.
我知道很多人比我年长（我现在35岁），但是大部分和我共事的比我年长的人都是无知的混蛋，完全不值得我尊重。
There is also the polar opposite of that where they are extremely pleasant to deal with. I respect them.
我反而觉得和某些比我年轻的人共事更加愉悦。我尊重这些比我年轻的人。
6
生活在城市丛林里，每个人都在期待逃离。很多人告诉我们：
Just go! Travel!
Drop everything and it’ll work itself out!
说走就走！去旅行吧！
丢下一切，船到桥头自然直！
反鸡汤发声——
Bitch what fucking parallel universe do you live in that that advice works in the real world? Unless you come from money, there is no dropping everything and doing what you want.
你生活在哪个狗屁世界才觉得这种鸡汤有用？除非你有钱，否则你不可能丢下一切，去做自己喜欢的事。
7
这个鸡汤真的看起来没什么问题：
Family is family no matter what.
无论如何，家人总是家人。
反鸡汤发声——
I made myself miserable for my entire adult life pretending I didn have serious issues with my selfish, poisonous mother because of choices she made when I was a kid.
自我成年以来，我一直因为假装没有和我母亲有矛盾而感到痛苦，她自私恶毒，在我小时候做出了很多错误选择。
It took me till I was 32 years old to tell her I didn want to deal with her for a long period so I could have time to figure out how to forgive her and she reacted with the sharpest, most toxic reaction I could have anticipated.
直到32岁我才有勇气告诉她，在很长一段时间里我不想和她联系了，我需要想清楚我该如何原谅她，然而她却给出了我能想象到的最尖锐最恶毒的反应。
Sometimes family isn family, its just shitty people you happened to grow up with (or didn ).
有时候家人不是家人，他们只是一些和你一起生活成长（或者根本就没有和你一起生活过）的烂人。
Sometimes real family is made up of the people you choose.
有时候真正的家人是你选择的那些人。
莫名想到了张韶涵的家人们
8
无论是选秀节目，还是成功学宣传，都会用到这句鸡汤：
Follow your dreams.
追随你的梦想。
反鸡汤发声——
First of all,not everyone has a dream.
首先，并不是所有人都有梦想。
Secondly, you can earn enough butterfly farming to support yourself.
第二，你没法赚足够的钱支撑梦想。
Get a job that pays you well enough to have hobbies. Find your happiness OUTSIDE of work. Travel, cook, garden, etc.
找一份薪资不错，让你有能力发展其它兴趣爱好的工作。在工作外找到幸福。旅游，烹饪，做园艺等等都可以。
9
你听过这样一句鸡汤吗？
Money can buy happiness.
钱不能买来幸福。
反鸡汤发声——
I still don believe money can buy happiness.
我始终不相信钱不能买来幸福这句话。
Money buys you peace of mind so you can turn your attention to things that do make you happy instead of stressing about money.
钱可以买来安宁，这样你就可以把你的注意力转到你让你开心的事上，而不是为了钱忧心。
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